Insights from the Las Vegas shooter- arrogance

So it seems like we might have gotten some insights about the Vegas shooter. He wasn’t crazy, he was angry.  Angry enough to make others suffer the way he felt he did.

In 2013 he sued the Cosmopolitan Hotel for a fall. His deposition shows a braggert who feels he’s very important to the gambling community because of the amount of time and money he spent gambling every day. He was apparently pretty good at it, enough to be rich by most of anyone’s standards. But something was missing – he didn’t get the acclimation he felt he deserved.

So when he fell at the fancy Cosmopolitan Hotel in Las Vegas, he felt due something.  Read up on some of his comments in his deposition.  He felt he was very important. How dare this hotel, and this judge not see that?  The judge dismissed his case.  Thus started the acclimation of weapons from that point on.  So why didn’t he go shoot the judge? the other lawyer?  He would have gotten caught. He basically lacked the social skills to be acknowledged. He hoped to get away. He was a coward.

He wasn’t planning on getting caught. He had everything pretty well worked out, including explosives in his car to hurt as many others as possible.  He was delusional in  assuming that because he had money, that he deserved a certain kind of accolade and respect from others.   Like our president, some arrogant people think money or a powerful position earn you the respect of others. Certainly many of those people surround themselves with others who kiss their butts.  Because they can’t tolerate any dissent or disagreement.  But we all know the truth, respect is something we have to earn. And the more we give out, the more we get.

So this doofus was so angry he felt entitled to take other people’s happiness away from them. A great place to find completely innocent targets would be a music festival. He perched himself where he didn’t hear the music. He actually had trial runs or plans at a number of other venues, in Chicago at Lollapalooza and in Boston.  He didn’t act out his rampage there, I’d like to think it was because maybe someone in those places said a kind word to him, so he couldn’t carry it out.  But Vegas, Vegas became the enemy in his mind because he should be world famous for his poker skills, but he wasn’t. And his skills were only against the machines, he could never succeed in a tournament with others because he had not sufficient people skills.  Because a person who thinks money should make others  bow down to them somehow either gets elected President of America or has to be satisfied with fantasizing about owning a small island.  He should have moved to a poor country, hired bodyguards and built his palace.  We wish he had.


Insights from the Las Vegas shooter- arrogance

From a place of healing

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“May all beings everywhere be happy and free, and may the thoughts, words, and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.”

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From Wikipedia:

The Port Arthur massacre of 28–29 April 1996 was a massacre in which 35 people were killed and 23 wounded. It occurred mainly at the historic Port Arthur former prison colony,[1] a popular tourist site in south-eastern Tasmania, Australia.[2] It was the deadliest mass shooting in Australian history, and amongst the most notable in history.[3]


Following the spree, the Prime Minister of Australia, John Howard, introduced strict gun control laws within Australia and formulated the National Firearms Programme Implementation Act 1996, restricting the private ownership of high capacity semi-automatic rifles, semi-automatic shotguns and pump-action shotguns as well as introducing uniform firearms licensing. It was implemented with bipartisan support by the Commonwealth, states and territories.[6] The massacre happened just six weeks after the Dunblane massacre, in Scotland, which claimed 18 lives, with U.K. Prime Minister John Major reaching out to his counterpart over the shared tragedies; the United Kingdom passed its own changes to gun laws in 1997.[7][8]

Yes there are ways to make changes and make America safer.  Right now it’s discouraging because the elected “leader” doesn’t represent the majority of us in thoughts, words, or actions.  Alot of gullible people and rich people who care more about power and money than people conspired to put him in power.  The ones who can thwart his behavior are few, because losing that power is frightening to them.  But even that power has been thwarted by our strength and the strength and power or the nameless people among us who work together to stop the harm that he would create.  So we will endure, and we will be stronger and better for it.

Mankind seems committed to repeating the same mistakes over and over again. Gullible people climb aboard unknowingly and we have to forgive them. Someday, the gun control measures will become more rational. Perhaps every GOP member needs to lose a family member to gun violence before that will occur.  Perhaps someone will begin the anti-NRA organization which will be stronger than the NRA.  Perhaps those in power will gain some common sense but until then we have to commit to rational behavior and thought and join together the best we can.

I know that where weaponry is limited, the terrorist actions cause less destruction. There is much less damage a maniacal lone wolf can cause with a knife. It’s common sense. Why are assault weapons legal? Why are the adapters to make them full machine guns legal?  Much of our world is crazy. Much of our law is crazy. But we’re not crazy. And if we keep working together, we will change our world.

Today, keep on reaching out and loving. Go past your fears and reach out to someone who is isolated and different.  We all need to be connected. When we’re connected, all of our worlds are safer. It’s not possible to hate so much as to destroy others when we stay connected.  All life is precious.

From a place of healing

Answering your phone is so 1990.

Seriously, I just got a new Ford Fusion. Even better, it was a certified used 2017 model fully loaded with tons of special features that I don’t even have any idea of how to use. And because it was “certified used” the warranty is actually better and longer and it almost was half what the sticker of a new one would be. So finally, finally, I can back up safely.  I might even be able to back up into the parking lines now, wow. So I hopefully won’t keep losing side mirrors on our one car garage side walls, super cool!  Right?  But what about when those large SUVs and trucks are parked next to me?  When is the extending periscope going to get added?

I totally love that my car can send and receive text messages while I’m driving. That’s just the coolest. It will totally help my communication with my children who never ever answer their phones, right?  I mean answering your phone is so over!  Why do people even work as telemarketers anymore?  Who actually answers their phone nowadays?

So the trunk.  I mean, come on. Who designed this thing?  I see those ads where the lady pushes a button on the bottom of the trunk while she’s on the phone explaining that wifi isn’t a question, it’s a thing,  and her husband is standing there with his hands full of groceries.  So I just don’t understand, if I can just walk up to my car and it senses my key in my purse and I don’t even need a key in an ignition to drive my car, why can’t it just sense I’m standing in front of my trunk and open. Or why isn’t Siri just responding to “open my trunk” when I say so.  It seems like how did they forget this when they’re designing all this other cool stuff. Right?  So now, I’m totally feeling annoyed about finding my key fob when I need to open the trunk. They’ve now created a new problem for me.

(I asked my 87 year old mom who’s been driving one of these types of cars for over a year if she has any idea how to start the car if the battery in the key fob dies- she has no idea. At least I watched the video – she said jealously “they gave you a video?” and I told her, no I didn’t get a video with my car, I googled it and watched it on YouTube of course)

I do know I’m first on the list for Amazon when they start experimenting with the brain implant device that will recognize the difference for when you’re thinking about ordering something and just fantasizing, so the stuff you want will be at your door just by thinking I want that.  So I’m first on the list because I put it down here right?  You saw it.  It’s my idea and I want it.  And because it’s my idea and I want it, I get all the mis-orders of chocolate sundaes and brownies for free if it’s their error?  Right?  See why I’m first on the list?  Did you want to be second?

Answering your phone is so 1990.

Stop! I want me time!

OMG have your weekends and “me” time turned into mine?  My hubby said to me “enjoy your day off! ” and I thought, what day off?  I have to go to yoga, and zumba, and walk the dog and take the dog to the vet, and do laundry and order my craft supplies and there’s a million other things I need to do.  And as I was realizing this day was about to slip into another one of those busy days that feels like it’s anything but about me having a day off  – as I look at my Daylio self monitoring Ap and realize I never check “relaxing” and WTF!  What am I doing to myself?  And how did this happen?

And it happens. We all do it. We get into a mindless routine of what we have to do, but do we really?  If you really have enough underwear to go through 14 days, why do you have to do the laundry just because the basket is full?  Can’t you just push it down?  Or get a bigger basket?  Or buy a new pair of panties?

Well, I guess we don’t all do it.  I do know people who don’t do anything much but that’s the point.  No matter what it is it starts to become “things I have to do” and then the fun is gone! Gone!

What I really want to do on my day off?  I really want to stay in bed and watch Netflix to my hearts delight. And play online spades with online friends I won’t ever meet and blacklist a bunch of dummies who get us set.   Did I?  No.   But I didn’t go to yoga or zumba today so there!  I played some with my arts and crafts and that was satisfying but I was making one project hoping that it would turn out good enough to donate to a charity event I’m involved in.  And again, I took the fun out of it.  All the while thinking this is Monday, and Monday is my allocated day for working on my book and I haven’t written anything much in months now because I gave myself the summer off, and btw, someone please tell me what happened to this summer because I seem to have lost it entirely.  Sheet! Why does everything feel like should, good enough, blah blah blah. Somebody please change this record!    I guess I should have gone to yoga after all.

But do me a favor.  Figure out today what is a should that doesn’t have to be.  And just let it go and while you do that wonderful indulgent thing, think of poor pitiful me, will ya?

And I’m going to keep on searching today for a giggle.   I am going to promise to keep my eyes open and try to find one. I deserve it.  You do too.

Stop! I want me time!

Returning the Gift –by Robin Wall Kimmerer, syndicated from, Sep 02, 2017

Returning the Gift

–by Robin Wall Kimmerer, syndicated from, Sep 02, 2017

In the teachings of my Potawatomi ancestors, responsibilities and gifts are understood as two sides of the same coin. The possession of a gift is coupled with a duty to use it for the benefit of all. A thrush is given the gift of song—and so has a responsibility to greet the day with music. Salmon have the gift of travel, so they accept the duty of carrying food upriver. So when we ask ourselves, what is our responsibility to the Earth, we are also asking, “What is our gift?”

As human people, most recently evolved here, we lack the gifts of our companion species, of nitrogen fixation, pollination, and 3000-mile migrations under magnetic guidance. We can’t even photosynthesize. But we carry gifts of our own, which the Earth urgently needs. Among the most potent of these is gratitude.

Gratitude may seem like weak tea given the desperate challenges that lie before us, but it is powerful medicine, much more than a simple thank you. Giving thanks implies recognition not only of the gift, but of the giver. When I eat an apple, my gratitude is directed to that wide-armed tree whose tart offspring are now in my mouth, whose life has become my own. Gratitude is founded on the deep knowing that our very existence relies on the gifts of beings who can in fact photosynthesize. Gratitude propels the recognition of the personhood of all beings and challenges the fallacy of human exceptionalism—the idea that we are somehow better, more deserving of the wealth and services of the Earth than other species.

The evolutionary advantage for cultures of gratitude is compelling. This human emotion has adaptive value, because it engenders practical outcomes for sustainability. The practice of gratitude can, in a very real way, lead to the practice of self-restraint, of taking only what we need. Acknowledging the gifts that surround us creates a sense of satisfaction, a feeling of enough-ness which is an antidote to the societal messages that drill into our spirits telling us we must have more. Practicing contentment is a radical act in a consumption-driven society.

Indigenous story traditions are full of cautionary tales about the failure of gratitude. When people forget to honor the gift, the consequences are always material as well as spiritual. The spring dries up, the corn doesn’t grow, the animals do not return, and the legions of offended plants and animals and rivers rise up against the ones who neglected gratitude. The Western storytelling tradition is strangely silent on this matter, and so we find ourselves in an era when we are rightly afraid of the climate we have created.

We human people have protocols for gratitude; we apply them formally to one another. We say thank you. We understand that receiving a gift incurs a responsibility to give a gift in return. The next step in our cultural evolution, if we are to persist as a species on this beautiful planet, is to expand our protocols for gratitude to the living Earth. Gratitude is most powerful as a response to the Earth because it provides an opening to reciprocity, to the act of giving back.

This article is syndicated from is about deepening our self awareness, in a community of kindred spirits. By changing ourselves, we change the world. Awakin excerpted this article from Returning the Gift. Author Dr. Robin Wall Kimmerer is a mother, scientist, writer, and Distinguished Teaching Professor of Environmental Biology at the SUNY College of Environmental Science and Forestry in Syracuse, New York. Kimmerer is an enrolled member of the Citizen Band Potawatomi. She lives on an old farm in upstate New York, tending gardens both cultivated and wild.

Returning the Gift –by Robin Wall Kimmerer, syndicated from, Sep 02, 2017

Something New

Do you ever get into the rut where you feel like one day is just like the other and you’re just going through the motions of living?  That can happen for alot of reasons, one of which is chronic depression or chronic stress.  But it doesn’t have to be that way or stay that way.  Sometimes, it’s just about how you approach living that affects how you feel. What you’re thinking about what is going on colors your response to it.

I can promise you that every person you think is so happy or carefree probably has problems deeper or worse than yours, or has conquered how to live with them.  It’s ok to get blue once in awhile, we all need a pity part to just regroup on occasion, believe me, you’re entitled to that.  Go for it big time when you need it.  Eat a quart of ice cream and cry your eyes out and watch Titanic and don’t answer the phone.  You deserve that for how hard you work every day.

But if those days just feel like every day and every day is “meh” then it might be a good time to try something new.   So here’s where the thought processes make a big difference.

Try on some of these today (or any New day)

  1.  Today is not like yesterday or last week.  Because today is the first day that September 1st 2017 has ever happened.  This isn’t last friday. It’s the first day of a new month in a year that you haven’t lived in yet.  It’s new.
  2. Because it’s new, it hasn’t happened yet.  So lets have a little fun with this new day that we haven’t lived yet.  What is something you can do today that will be different. Can you come up with 5 new things you haven’t done before today?  In the next hour?
  3. Some suggestions:  It could be as easy as answering the phone differently today which would then pass on this whole new thing to everyone you talk to.  What about “Happy September !st, this is …..”.  Because you just answered the phone in a fresh new way all your conversations will now be different than usual. Just this one fresh new approach will change your entire day.  It will be fun all day to watch your responses.  Maybe you even want to try that in your workspace. Maybe on the bus, on the train.  Maybe you even have something more fresh and clever to say than “Happy September 1st”- having this one new thing today will change your whole freakin day! And others too!  Wake everyone up out of this living coma!
  4. You could wear something entirely weird for you just to amuse you! Wear two different shoes or socks on purpose. Wear intentionally clashing colors or prints- fun!  Get some of that pink or purple spray and spray a streak of color in your hair.   Now I intentionally painted my toenails recently two different alternating colors.  It was fun and I was amused.  In two weeks, only one person other than my pedicurist noticed- because everyone is in a coma!  Be weirder! Even so, people are afraid to say anything because they don’t want to be offensive!  So just enjoy it.  Personally I love love love my “Nasty Woman” button from Hillary’s campaign. (And I don’t think that’s at all weird, btw)   You know who always comments on it?  African American Women at work-everywhere. They are so happy to see a white toast older lady who agrees with them.  I get so much love and I feel so connected when people comment on it. It’s my absolutely favorite thing.  Buy a goofy pin and wear it proudly!  I love things that also support animals- I know I always smile at people’s animal support bumper stickers.
  5. If you’re really really stuck, change your perspective literally.  Put your head between your legs and let all the blood rush to your brain.  This is a great thing to do during a panic attack too btw.  All that blood rushing down and that rush changes how you feel.  Or if you can’t do that position, just lay your head off the edge of the bed and let the blood rush to your head that way for awhile.  It’s good for your brain and very refreshing.  (for 5-15 minutes)


So even if all you do today is notice that today is Sept 1st 2017 and just be open and aware and think multiple times today this is a brand new day- I can live it a whole new way and what can I do different today- a whole new set of possibilities opens up and you come out of that living coma.  You start paying attention more to right now just to see what you can do differently right now  and that changes EVERYTHING.


Something New