Furious about gun laws, part 2

The recent employee shooting in Aurora, Illinois was done by someone who applied for a a foid card and got one.  It wasn’t until he applied for the concealed carry license that his felony for a stabbling In mississippi in 2007 came up, and it was denied and his foid card was “revoked”, but he never turned in his weapon or foid card.

Nor are fingerprints required to apply for a foid card or make a gun purchase.

Statistics on gun crime indicate that the vast majority of gun crimes occur with guns that have been stolen from gun stores.  Gun stores are not required to  have security, or cameras, or even lock up the weapons when the stores are closed.

For those who lost family members and for the rest of us, it’s clear the NRA is way more about money and power than safety.

Common sense changes could easily be made to prohibit assault weapons, just as easily as it was for dunce 45 to sign the bumpstock prohibition.

But of course gun sales should all require fingerprints, FBI background checks, and adequate security. None of those interventions violate anyone’s 2nd amendment rights, unless there’s a clause in the 2nd amendment that allows for gross negligence and stupidity to also be a right.


Furious about gun laws, part 2

What used to be Valentine’s Day

Yesterday, Valentines Day, many people were on the news talking about the mass shooting in Parkland  last year, a year ago on Valentines Day.  When I heard them talking I felt sad and then thought to the Valentines Day in 2007 when I had just dropped my son off at NIU after meeting him for lunch.  He called me on my cell phone as I was driving on 88 towards Chicago, and he just said “Mom, I’m ok. Turn on the news”.  Then he was on the phone telling friends and other family he was safe, as I turned on the news and heard of the shooting at NIU where 7 students were killed. In the auditorium where he attended classes during that time on Monday, Wednesdays, and Fridays.  Valentines day that year was a Thursday.

To me, I don’t think this will ever be a holiday.  Not as long as assault weapons are so readily available and common sense laws about guns are still lacking, because of the strength of the GOP.    I won’t forget how I felt in 2007, and every time I hear about another “Mass shooting”.  Crap.  There was one of these episodes in European countries where the laws were immediately changed- and that never occurred in those places again.  Not as long as mother’s and father’s lose their children while the people in power send their meaningless “thoughts and prayers”.  Bullshit.

I’m angry.  I’m angry our children and grandchildren need to grow up in a world where scars like this continue to happen, while the few people with the majority of the money and influence control what should be common sense and keep it from becoming law.  I felt a sense of hope at last year’s March for our Lives.  But little has changed so for now I feel furious, sad and furious.

What used to be Valentine’s Day

The unexpected consequences of sharing

It’s been a very interesting experience sharing my story recently and book. I’ve enjoyed fascinated questions from my son, so many things he never knew. Shocked surprise. Cool.

People who were impressed with my survival- also surprising since I thought I tried to downplay the mess of my childhood. Interesting.

But the big shock to me is the number of people who have said “Rhonda, this book appeared in my life exactly when I needed it, and it helped me”

This has created a whole new community I feel connected to, responsible for, and a whole new experience of knowing secrets with an impressive group of amazing and creative survivors.

So in gratitude, I am humbled and bow to the light in all of you. Thank you for your gift.

The unexpected consequences of sharing

“Please Don’t Die” featured on Dr Kevin Pho’s blog

Hi all,

I hope you’ve all survived the holiday season in one piece.

I’m very excited to share that an excerpt to my new book is live on Dr Pho’s bog, he’s got thousands more followers than I do so cool, right?  If you want to read an excerpt you can check it on by clicking on the link below.

On a much sadder note, my book is being updated again because one of my survivors’ son’s hung himself 1/5/19.  Devastating news.  More on this at a later date when my emotions about this are less upset.

Meanwhile check out the blog. While I add the book update, it can take a day or 2 longer until it’s shipped out.  The current version is still available at our crystal lake office.

Namaste.  Honor the light, and keep it burning, even in the rain.

“Please Don’t Die” featured on Dr Kevin Pho’s blog

From “Pocket” – interesting

This Is Exactly How You Should Train Yourself To Be Smarter

Design inspired by the Cognitive Bias Codex

View the high resolution version of the infographic by clicking here.

Out of all the interventions we can do to make smarter decisions in our life and career, mastering the most useful and universal mental models is arguably the most important.

Over the last few months, I’ve written about how many of the most successful self-made billionaire entrepreneurs like Ray Dalio, Elon Musk, and Charlie Munger swear by mental models…

“Developing the habit of mastering the multiple models which underlie reality is the best thing you can do. “

— Charlie Munger

“Those who understand more of them and understand them well [principles / mental models] know how to interact with the world more effectively than those who know fewer of them or know them less well. “

— Ray Dalio

“It is important to view knowledge as sort of a semantic tree — make sure you understand the fundamental principles, i.e. the trunk and big branches, before you get into the leaves/details or there is nothing for them to hang onto.” — Elon Musk

Each of these luminary entrepreneurs use different words to essentially say the same thing.

I’ve collected the 650+ most useful mental models from the best mental model curators in the world. It is now the most comprehensive list in the world. And I’ve launched a free mental model mini-course to help you understand what a mental model is and how to apply it to your life.

This infographic is the culmination of all these articles. It is my personal list of the 12 most useful & universal mental models that I believe everyone should master first. For each mental model, I share the sub mental models that make it up and one paragraph explaining its significance.

This infographic matters because it would take 6,500 hours to master each of the 650 mental models that others have recommended. That’s a lot of freaking time! You probably aren’t ready to commit that amount of time to mental models… yet. By creating this infographic, I hope to save you dozens of hours determining which models to learn first.

What is a mental model?

Mental models are descriptions of reality that apply across every area of our life, don’t get outdated, and provide immediate results by helping you make better decisions.

They are like little miniature mental maps of how a particular area of life works.

And when you learn them, it changes everything.

What is an example of a mental model?

One of the most famous and valuable mental models is called the Pareto Principle. You probably know it as the “80/20 rule.” This mental models says that most of your results are going to come from just a small percentage of your effort or work.

Vilfredo Pareto, the man who discovered this principle noticed that 80% of the land in his area was owned by 20% of the people. He looked in his garden, and saw that 80% of the peas were in 20% of the pea pods. Then he realized that this was something like an organizing principle of life.

This phenomena applies across many domains including productivity, happiness, business, health, etc. Here are a few examples:

  • 20% of relationships lead to 80% of happiness.
  • 20% of exercises lead to 80% of health benefit.
  • 20% of items on your to do list lead to 80% of productivity.

For example, by taking 30–60 minutes per day for prioritization, you can double your productivity. By auditing the relationships in your life, you can identify people you want to spend more time with and people you want to remove from your life. By looking at what experiences give you the most delight, you can begin to engineer your life differently.

This model is much more complex and it can be applied to infinitely more places, but this basic version allows you to quickly get value from it.


This is reprinted WITHOUT permission because i had no idea how to reach the author- but it’s an interesting concept

From “Pocket” – interesting

From Bryce Royer- healing the world

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“Leftover Women Take Over the Marriage Market”

When you think about how women in our country are still second class citizens after all these years- women are still earning less than men.  Childcare is still underpaid.  Men can still pay off women they’ve slept with and become a president because the GOP cares only about money and power – we can still see some improvements over other countries.

Women in China who haven’t married by age 25 are called “Leftover Women” and are considered flawed and outcasts.  Recently “leftover women” did an art installation in the “Marriage Market”.  Ok, hope you didn’t just eat a meal because you might get nauseous.

The Marriage Market is a place families visit to find suitable wives for their sons. The women (under 25 of course) or their families basically write an “ad” with no pics, describing their daughters looking for a mate.

You might not be able to click on the video of the event- but it’s worth it to go to DailyGood.com and watch it.  Yes, it will make you a little sick, but also, you will admire these brave women who are putting themselves out there to say I’m not second rate, I’m not flawed, I’m a valuable person.

Please also remember in this tough holiday season that you are a person and you have value.  We don’t tell each other enough but it’s true.

I worry about life, our culture, our horrible issues in our lives.  I worry about you.  I want you to be happy and feel valued because you deserve it.  I worry about all those who have touched my life with their struggles.  I want you to feel whole.  I want you to feel loved. I want you to have hope for a better future.  I am here to help in any way I can.



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December 19, 2018

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Leftover Women Take Over the Marriage Market

No one should ever compromise the dignity of another human being.

– Sarah Addison Allen –

Leftover Women Take Over the Marriage Market

In China, a woman who is unmarried by age 25 is considered a “leftover woman.” She feels like an outsider, and in a culture with great respect for parents, she may feel like a failure. A group of such women went to the Marriage Market and put up large photos of themselves, and messages like “don’t give up love for suitability” or expressing the wish not to marry. Their fundamental message is “Don’t let pressure dictate your future.” { read more }

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