One of my favorite yoga teachers, Amy Multack, shared this quote from Dr Jill Bolte Taylor, a Neuroanatamist who detailed her experience of a stroke and recovery, and the insights she learned during it. Our minds are amazing things and we are complicated beings. But we always have to be aware of the energy we bring to things, because it is always reflected back to us.
Last night I watched “Life of Pi”. When Pi looked into the Tigers’ eyes, he thought he saw the love and compassion people feel. His father taught him a painful lesson that we often see our own reflections when we look into other’s eyes. When we go through life feeling entitled, we get coldness and rejection in return. When we go through life angry, we feel isolated and misunderstood. We all come across others who act in ways we don’t understand and don’t appreciate. We all all responsible for the energy we bring into the room or into the space we share with others. Routinely every week, I get many many patients who appreciate that I am there to help them and that I am responsive when they have questions, and they know I am there to help them and that they are wanting that help.
And for that great vast majority of the people I see, I will do everything I can think of to try to help them.
Then about every few months or so, someone comes along who expects me to jump through hoops for them, fit them in and see them when I should be doing something else, give me tons and tons of paperwork to fill out, ask for refills over and over after they’ve missed their appointments, and abuse the support staff. At some point, I have enough of feeling I am the one working much harder on their wellness than they are. To be honest, I don’t want to see those people. I don’t want to work harder for their wellness than they are willing to work. And at some point, when the requests have occurred over and over, I finally say no, and those people always threaten me with posting negative feedback about me online and to various organizations and my bosses.
To all those demanding and threating people out there in the world, who get their way by acting like spoiled complaining children, I say to you, do what you need to do. You don’t need to tell me about it. I am responsible for the energy I bring to this space called life. I work very hard to help the people who are also working hard to better themselves and their lives. I worked hard for my wellness. Maybe when you say the things you say, you are looking into the tiger’s eyes, and just seeing a reflection of yourself.